There are two kinds of feedback: constructive and negative.
Constructive feedback serves to grow another human being. Constructive feedback serves to provide examples and metaphors that tell a story that can resonate with another party.
Negative feedback serves to limit growth, hem in development, and ensure that the status quo doesn’t change too much. Negative feedback employs snark and cynicism to score rhetorical points but not to tell a story that resonates with the person hearing the feedback.
Negative feedback takes the posture and attitude that a relationship is merely transactional and that neither party owes each other much more than maybe a good time.
Constructive feedback is always oriented toward tomorrow; oriented toward realigning minds and growth toward relationship and development.
Be careful which form of feedback you’re encouraging on your team.
And which form of feedback you’re allowing in your mind and heart.
