If the process of resolving a conflict doesn’t interest you too much…
If you just want to “be done with it’ already…
If you “just don’t care how it stops” just that it’s over…
If you have “no dog in this fight”…
If you are “just a disinterested observer”…
Then in reality you are a spectator and your behavior of standing around (metaphorically) observing the conflict and its results, and not adding to either getting to resolution, reconciliation, or management of the conflict at hand, is causing more harm than good.
We don’t need more gawkers at car wrecks.
We’ve got enough of those already.
We need more people willing to stop by the side of the road of a conflict and help to get the parties to their best selves.
Or, at the least, be willing to dial 911 as they fly by on their way to other, more pressing issues.
