HIT Piece 07.08.2014

How easy is it to say “no?”

About as hard as it is to accept the consequences of a bad “yes.”

An agreement made based out of desperation, greed, a desire to please or a need to avoid a conflict (whether with self or with others) is an agreement destined to produce your worst work, not your best.

A well thought out “no,” as painful as it may be to give because of circumstance (financial, emotional, psychological, etc.), can destine you to produce your best work, not your worst.

With that in mind, it’s easy to say “no” to a difficult client, a time consuming and fruitless mediation, a meaningless workshop or speaking engagement, or even a “too good to be true” “once in a lifetime offer” to work, or serve, for an organization that has more problems than fleas on a Texas mule.

I’ve never known a mule to have trouble saying “no.”

Why don’t you?

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA

Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant

Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
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HIT Piece 07.01.2014

I started telling stories to myself when I first realized that I was a human being, separate from other human beings.

I don’t know what time that happened for you, but for me, it happened right around 8 years old.

I also became infinitely more interested, in that year, in the stories of others. I became a fan of classic novels (by Ernest Hemingway), classic television shows (the Twilight Zone) and even classic radio shows (Dragnet and The Shadow were particularly good).

I became a fan of stories with conflicts, a lack of easy answers and moral ambiguity.

What stories did you become a fan of and when?

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA

Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant
Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
Email HSCT: hsconsultingandtraining@gmail.com
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HIT Piece 06.17.2014

I’ve noticed a bystander effect related to work and entrepreneurship.

The demarcation line of the 21^st century will be the one that separates those who put in effort (not work, effort), energy and have the desire to advance—from those who do not.

To borrow from Jerry Seinfeld in a recent article from Esquire magazine, those who will be successful in the 21^st century will be those who just want it more than other people.

Being a bystander (a person who looks on as an event occurs) to someone else’s success, energy and effort does not entitle the bystander to a portion of the fruits of that successful person’s success.

Being a bystander to someone else’s entrepreneurial effort is the other side of the demarcation line.

Being a bystander to someone else’s effort is the least productive choice (other than applauding from the crowd) that anybody can make moving forward into the 21^st century.

The future 1% will consist of those who hustled and were rewarded, and the 99% will be defined as those who watched the 1% hustle, silently and publicly applauded, and believed that somehow that applause correlates to receiving a percentage of the success.

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA
Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant
Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
Email HSCT: hsconsultingandtraining@gmail.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HSConsultingandTraining
Twitter: www.twitter.com/Sorrells79
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HSCT’s website: http://www.hsconsultingandtraining.com

HIT Piece 06.10.2014

“…but I would have liked to have been asked!”

This statement typically…

…comes from the ego…
…comes from a fear of being left out, left behind, or not given consideration…
…covers a situation that says nothing about the other person’s selfishness, lack of consideration, caring, etc., and says everything about the person making the statement and their insecurities.

I have often completed a complaint with this phrase.

I have been fearful, anxious, insecure and not consulted often.

Sometimes, this has led to more conflict as I have reacted, rather than responded.

I’m trying to catch myself and do better.

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA
Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant
Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
Email HSCT: hsconsultingandtraining@gmail.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HSConsultingandTraining
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/Sorrells79
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/jesansorrells/
HSCT’s website: http://www.hsconsultingandtraining.com

Towards A More Thankful Union

We here at the HSCT Communication Blog are all thankful this day for many things:
The country where we live,
The family that we have,
The connections we are about to make,
The business that we are growing,
The tools that we have to explore the world,
The intellect and science behind them,
The religiousity that allowed people to develop ideas,
The advancements in the world that feed more people well,
The times that are a changin’,
The peace we have an opportunity to build,
The relationships we have had a chance to build,
The connections that we have made,
The critics, naysayers and disbelievers that we have,
The “no’s,”
The “yes’s,”
The “maybe laters,”
The incredulity,
The pain
…and the promise…

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA

Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant

Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)

Email HSCT: hsconsultingandtraining@gmail.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HSConsultingandTraining

Twitter: www.twitter.com/Sorrells79

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jesansorrells/