It appears that the large conflict situations in life are the ones that matter the most.
Death
Divorce
Job loss
Personal and professional disappointments
But the reality is, the small moments that appear to matter the least, are the ones that create the grit and resilience to survive the crucible of the larger moments, when the pressure is enormous.
The pressure to behave unethically.
The pressure to surrender a critical position.
The pressure to sacrifice long-held principles for short-term gains.
The pressure to avoid losses that appear insurmountable—in the emotional present.
Recognizing that managing the small moment of conflict matters more than anticipating how you’re going to manage the larger moments (should they come) is a huge advantage in a work world of shifting priorities.
Four traits to focus on growing, in the small moments:
Gaining self-awareness.
Refining your story.
Connecting with other people by growing empathy.
Giving yourself a break.
Focus on learning and absorbing the lessons from dealing with the small stuff, not to obsess over those lessons, but to allow those small interactions to prepare you for the next large conflict.
